Author, actor, and media personality, Toke Makinwa Condemns the glorification of suffering before you find love.
a post shared by Snoop Dogg on Instagram, he made a re-post of a man
whose wife stood by him, even when she knew all the crime he has
committed, she still made him a better person.
The post condemns women who envy this woman but still, they wouldn’t have done what she did.
However. Toke Makinwa, condemns this act, according to her, ‘that is not the way to happiness’. she wrote;
am deeply tired of this narrative though, this post pissed me off soooo
much, why do we like to make women look like huge jokes? why is this
the way to happiness? Why must you sell the “I suffer pass” mentality?
This promotes low self-esteem. I know for the most part of my life I
believed that for love to be real, it has to hurt, I believed there has
to be pain and real humiliation before you find peace and that mentality
is BS. That mentality made me stay in crazy situations and do the most
for the wrong reasons. Let’s stop pls. This is trash. Pls show me
examples of men who stayed with a cheating woman, drug addict, jail
bird, publicity with other men etc. show me a man who knew what he
signed up for and even after she slept with his brothers and friends
held her down till she became refined. If we can’t pick 10 men pls stop
raising your daughters to hold down situations that might eventually
break them, stop selling the narrative that women have to suffer before
they find love. This is ruining lives for real and it should stop”.